“As an example, Americans who watch an average amount of TV and film, and listen to modern music, will probably find it incredibly difficult not to believe that their lives can be justified if they find and marry the right person. Ernest Becker argues that the modern relationship is all many of us have left after the so-called ‘death of God.’ When another human being looks directly into your eyes and confesses their self-giving love to you for life, that is a profound affirmation of your existence. In the church, we believe that marriage reflects something of the relationship with Christ and his church, and so we have a way of explaining why marriage feels so validating: it is an echo of Christ’s justification of his church, his body. But it is only an echo, because unlike Christ, ‘No human relationship can bear the burden of godhood, and the attempt has to take its toll on some way on both parties.’ If you look to any other person to give your life justification and meaning, you will eventually resent them and leave disillusioned. Yet this myth, this vision of fullness, continues to be one of the most enduring in the West. And we have seen this myth repeated in a million stories, so that no matter how many times we personally experience its emptiness, we still find it alluring.”
Alan Noble Disruptive Witness